How can I be a Sacred Intimate?

I'm trying to understand what I mean when I say I'm a Sacred Intimate and how it represents a profession.

My Mission is to lead people to healing, to contribute to the healing of a suffering world, to express myself fully and completely as a loving and caring man, and to explore the union and balance of sexuality and spirituality.

My vision is to be an instrument of God's healing love, to embrace and grow God's use of my body temple, and to use all of my skills to teach that sex is a physical manifestation of the spiritual principle of Love.


When I think of being a Sacred Intimate, I envision being a sex worker. There's much more to it than that, but sex is a biological need that many men have difficulty meeting for various reasons. I feel I can help men lead more fulfilling lives by serving in the sacred capacity of helping them meet this need.

There's also a healing capacity that goes with this. I still don't understand my healing capacity. My appreciation of sex comes from a very innocent place. For me, all sex is play. I want to help other men to find the ability to play sexually. Come to my playroom and let's explore each other. Let's play pretend. Share some of the things you like to do but are not completely comfortable with or are ashamed of and let me affirm your desires.

How else do I manifest as a Sacred Intimate? I have often mirrored people when we have sex. I'm receptive to their desires and am attentive to subtle and obvious ques. I like to let my partner lead me into their world and my sexual experience expands as a result. I love exploring sex this way.

I practice Orgasmic Yoga most mornings. Sometimes someone joins me. I build my erotic energy and release it into my day, or send healing energy to someone, or experience God, or use it to manifest my prayers. I release creative energy into the world to contribute to its healing. In a world that seems fixated on celebrating violence, I celebrate Love.

I want to make pornographic movies that demonstrate sexual freedom that others can use for validation of their own desires. I want people to see me freely and lovingly enjoy my body sexually and think to themselves "Oh, if he can do it, then so can I."

I can only lead people to healing who are ready to be healed. Many of us identify so strongly with our pain that we're not ready for healing. For those, I want to hold lovingly close to my heart. I want to love them until they can love themselves.

So I need some containers for packaging these services. I can work one on one. I can lead small groups. I can reach larger groups via various media. I feel the desire to write on various topics - spiritual and sexual. This and pornography offer me the ability to reach the most people. Zig Ziglar said that the secret to getting what you want is to help enough other people to get what they want. If I can begin satisfying these needs for sacred sexuality, then the money to support my work will become available. We have a deep need in this society, so I have plenty of work to keep me busy.

On Consciousness

I have a new ADULT blog entry about using the Aneros to explore anal pleasure for men who don't recognize anal stimulation as pleasurable: Aneros Play

This is from a journal entry dated Monday August 8, 2011 - on a flight to attend Erotic Temple at Wildwood:

I was reflecting on trying to explain my perspective on being, and how words either are hard to come by or are completely misleading.

I begin by noticing that everything I perceive, my entire experience of reality happens within this body. That conjures the image of a miniature person sitting inside the brain watching a big screen TV. That's obviously not the case, not even figuratively.

Somehow my experience is the perceiving, and maybe I am this perceiving. After the perception, the experience produces thoughts that I perceive. From theses thoughts, I build an intellectual understanding of the world.

But I am not my understanding, I am the perceiving. I am not my identity, the story I believe about who I am. My consciousness comes and goes and changes from day to day, but I remain unchanged.

I am not my experience, but the experiencing of my experience.

I always need to make a leap at this point. As I have the capacity to perceive, everything in the universe has the same potential. I eat food. The food is incorporated into my body and brain. Does it then gain the ability to perceive or has it always had this ability? Old particles/molecules from my body/brain return to the world. Everything is dynamic and changes, but everything is alive because God is omnipresent - whatever that means to you.

We were never kicked out of the Garden of Eden. We're still there, we just can't perceive it easily with thinking in the way. I am the part of the universe perceiving itself. I am God perceiving God in all the forms I can take. Words fall short - as always.

Death

First off, I've posted a request to my adult blog to engage in some self pleasuring: Love From Within

Next up, I was recently at an intensive focused on the erotic and the sacred. During that week, I considered a statement that I would want communicated after I died. The following is what I came up with:

Your suffering is optional. You may not know this when you are suffering, but it is true. Your pain is real, but suffering is not.

I have come to believe that the universe is loving. I call that love "God." I experience life and grow from that experience, painful or pleasurable. Pain sometimes comes from God, but it coms from a place of love.

Take care of your own consciousness. Focus on what is good and beautiful, and it will grow. Question your negative thoughts and they lose their power. All thought falls short of Truth and is a lie - even this thought. Grow the beauty within you until it spills out and beautifies the world. That's how it works.

April '10 Insights

• I was thinking about trying to wake up in the morning. The part of me that is trying to push myself is me and I am the one who has the power to get up. Actually, the part of me that is telling me to get up is my thoughts. This is an excellent example of my thoughts not being my true existence.
• How can I find a new extended family of choice? Am I the only one who sees the need?
• I live as part of a tribe of men who share my values.

Responsibilities Balance Freedom

This is a journal entry from April 10, 2010

I think things will continue to unfold. I have a sense that many of the world's problems come from selfishness and self-centeredness. If you look, evil on the large scale doesn't usually come from wanting to be evil. The greatest evil tends to come from desiring to conquer perceived evil in the world. For Hitler, it was the Jewish people (not evil). For Bin Laden, it was against evil Western civilization (not evil). The greater extreme you go to to rid the world of what you believe is evil, the more evil you will do. That's probably why Jesus said to avoid resisting evil. It's a tough lesson to follow, but crucial for the Kingdom of Heaven (Utopia).

The founding father's envisioned a world of personal freedom. That's absolutely essential, but it cannot be sustained if individuals do not support the whole. If mega-corporations search for every legal loophole to maximize profits, then it's not possible to leave them with less regulation. The founding fathers swore their lives and fortunes to each other in the pursuit of freedom. That common good has less support today. The world appears unbalanced.

This greater good must be fostered, but forcing people to support it would be counter to personal liberty. Servicing the common good needs to be fostered. It needs to be raised up as a guiding principle and as core a value as the pursuit of freedom is. It seems like getting something for nothing is valued in our culture.

So:

1. Take care of yourself first, otherwise you cannot help others. Do not trust government to take care of you, but be self reliant.
2. Use your personal freedom to support the greater good, the common good. Help others to grow their good.

It's not appropriate to force people to support the common good. Everyone is at their own stage of growth. A good goal is to encourage enough people to support the common good that we bring the world to a stable place.

Finding Freaky Meaningful Work

This is a portion of a journal entry from April 4, 2010

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Spirituality is the basis. It comes first. I seek first the Kingdom. I listen to the silence between my thoughts to connect with the one Power, one Presence and one Intelligence of the universe. This is not one piece of my career strategy. It is the foundation for everything I do.

From intense spiritual awareness, I am free from my thoughts and emotions. I am free to act and be authentically who I am on every level. I am not trapped by fear. I am not trapped by self-criticism. I freely do what I feel called to do.

I feel called to help other people find the same freedom that I want for myself. I believe that in that freedom, people will find their true calling and the world will be in balance. I believe that if enough people will be focused on the good of the whole that the world will find the Peace of God.

None of that requires a specific job or career. I can do all of that regardless of what I do for a living or how I grow my prosperity.

God is the source of my supply. My job is to do what I do best in a way that my preceding priorities are not compromised. That means expressing an avenue of prosperity that allows me to be nude or wear kilts, show my piercings and tattoos, not hide my exhibitionism, be sensual and spiritual, be as much of a freak as I like.

It might be good to reach out to the communities of gays and freaks and other freedom loving people to see how I can support them with my technical skills. If my customers are freaks, I ought to be able to be as much of a freak as I like - and carry the message of God's love in a way that conservative evangelicals could only dream.

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Seeking Participants and Observers

I've mentioned in the past that I practice orgasmic yoga daily (or nearly so) as a spiritual practice. If you think you might want to be involved, please find out more on my adult blog. My adult blog is intended for adults only.